SPEAKER_00 0:01

Welcome to World Amberview. We're your host, Amber Howard, your weekly post of guidance, inspiration, and strategies to have your small business and whole life thrive. We bring you incredible guests who share their real life experiences of being an entrepreneur so you can have your whole life work. Now, here's your host, Amber Howard.

SPEAKER_06 0:26

Good morning, everyone, and welcome back to What Would Amber Do. It really is my privilege this morning to be with Anoop Demoon. Anoop is a human connection architect who specializes in the art and science of nurturing peace and harmony within relationships. Anoop prides himself on helping other his clients and really all of the people in his life navigate relationship dynamics, creating meaningful connections that leave all people with the experience of being accepted, appreciated, and heard. And Anoop and I've had a very interesting relationship over the last number of years. At one point I was his coach, he's family to me and my children, and just really, really a dear friend. And so I'm so blessed to have you on the show this morning, Anoop. Thank you for being here.

SPEAKER_02 1:19

Oh my God. Thank you. Thank you for that introduction. I got goosebumps when you said that. It's like just the way you generated that. Thank you. Thank you for this opportunity to spend time with you. It's such a pleasure.

SPEAKER_06 1:31

Yeah, it is.

SPEAKER_02 1:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:33

So I wanted to start, you know, oftentimes I start this conversation, Anoop, with like, what was your journey? How did you get here? But really, I think there might be people in my audience who don't like, what is a human connection architect? Like, what is that? And and and maybe even like, what was your journey to stepping into or creating being that for your clients and for people in your life?

SPEAKER_02 1:56

Thank you for that. Yeah, I get that asked many times. And at first, it was kind of like just rather than a relationship coach, it's like, you know, what can I do differently than other people? But as I stepped into being a human connection architect, so for me, what that means is um I understand that humanity connects, that we're all connected through this like invisible thread all around the world. So, you know, I'm committed to human connection. Even though we're already connected, it's like, now how do you bring yourself closer to that? And the architect part is I help you create a blueprint for your life. I actually help you build the foundation, you know, this blueprint that you can take with you, and not just for yourself, your couple, it can be business in business, it could be your relationship, it could be with your kids, like anywhere. So that's where the human connection architect came from.

SPEAKER_06 2:43

Yeah, I love that. So I mean, a couple of things really stand out for me in what you just said, Anuk. Like I a hundred percent, a thousand, a million percent agree about the connection piece. I I we're all here. Science, they've proven it should have been shown, sociologists that human beings exist to connect and belong.

SPEAKER_05 3:04

Right.

SPEAKER_06 3:04

And as it and it's simple and yet not easy in the world that we live in, and and with human beings being what we are, to really have that experience of I think the norm would be more that people have an experience of disconnection. I and the other thing that you said that I really love the whole idea of bringing in the architecture, the blueprint of it is I really believe, and I know you share this belief as well, that we are the creators of our own lives and our own experience of life. So, and sometimes we need support in being able to actually create the life that we love and and create in this like what it looks like to create relationships, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 3:43

That we understand and yeah, and I love that. And something else that I want to add in is um when when I talk about human connection, it's actually it really starts with human connection over here with you, like as a human being. How do you connect as a human being to other people out there, right? That's where it begins. That's the fundamentals of my like practice. It's like it all starts with you, and the architect part, yeah. I mean, there's so many of my clients that have no idea, like, you know, um what's gonna happen next. We're living in, you know, we're living in oh, what's maybe it'll happen, maybe this and maybe that. But my commitment is that you actually get a future fulfilled, like it's already there, like you've created this like blueprint, you know, and you can take it with you anywhere. I had a couple married for 30 years, um, they're in their 70s or 80s, and the only thing they wanted was to connect together, and that only happened in a conversation, and now she's like she's got this calendar, and like her daughter phones her, and she's like, Oh, me and your dad are going dancing, or me and your dad are like, you know, we're helping planting trees, or they get to create a life they love because they chose that. So, yeah, that's my commitment.

SPEAKER_06 4:54

It's so great. Um, you know, I know you know I've been doing a lot of studies in in mindset and thinking into results of late, and just really present too. If you can think it, you can create it, like you can manifest it in reality. And we may not have the tools, right? Like given what we've been through in life or haven't, you know, the things, the awareness, the tools, the importance of being able to have people and in like even getting that if people are seeing your advertisements, like we'll ask for guidance and not even realize that we asked for guidance. Yeah, the things will start to show up on our journey, people, coaches, tools, free courses, whatever, because we've we've asked for that guidance, and now things start to show up. And I I think it's so important as human beings to understand that we don't have to go alone.

SPEAKER_01 5:49

Yeah, absolutely. I love that. Thank you. That's a great question. I love that.

SPEAKER_06 5:53

Yeah, I know. I um yeah, I recently I just kind of created this mind map of my what I want for my future, and I got clarity around that. And I remember initially looking at it when it was done and saying, wow, a lot of stuff on a piece of paper. Right, yeah. But it's like it's it really is. It starts with what you were saying. It starts over here with us getting clear about what we want. It starts like with us being, and and maybe that clarity is just I don't, I don't know what I want, but I know I don't want this.

SPEAKER_03 6:27

Right, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 6:28

And then you start asking, you know, Danielle always says the quality of our life is given by the quality of our questions. So, like, is the questions that you're asking getting you what you want? Um talk to me about you. Just recently did an inner child healing camp, which unfortunately I was not able to attend. I was I committed myself elsewhere, so I'm sad I didn't get to be there. But talk to me about the importance of this, like you know, inside of starting internally, starting over here where I am. What it why is it so important for us to do inner child work in order to have meaningful connection and relationships with others?

SPEAKER_02 7:09

Oh, that's so great! Yeah, the the event itself is so beautiful, like just uh what we had there. So for me, and I'm I I I'm quite I get emotional when it comes to the inner child stuff. Why? Because there's so many adults there that are bringing things from the past into their like business relationships, into their like family relationships, into like just everything. The importance of that is because you know, there's conversations that go on in your head as you're younger. There's things that have happened, things that have happened in your life that you haven't completed, like it hasn't been like, you know, you haven't completed it, you haven't, you know, closed it off. And those things come into your life as adults, and you start bringing these things which you have no idea about. You have no idea why you're like this. You know, it could be your environment, it could be, you know, your family, but sometimes it's an internal thing. And I got I got uh introduced to inner child healing work through one of uh a mutual friend of ours who does um things like the inner child stuff. And it's the reason when you're looking for something, when it's like the lack, you know, when you're like, I wish I was like this, I wish I was like that, you know, why does this happen to me? Why does that happen to me? It's actually your inner child talking to you because we forget to actually have fun, we forget to actually live in that childlike wonder in our life, because we're so caught up in, okay, I've got to do this and I've got to do this and I've got to get this done. So the importance of it is when we can actually take ourselves back to those life, the life that we had as a child when we were just having fun, it allows us to have fun as we grow as adults, right? Because that's the purpose is for us to be, you know, for us to have fun in life, right? I mean, you know, the significance is there's so much out there. And the importance of it, imagine a world where healing was inner child healing was like, you know, an important part of someone's life. Imagine, you know, the wars that wouldn't be there, the conversations that we can have because we're so complete with who we are as human beings. And one of the reasons I found out, um, if I can quickly share about my inner child healing um journey, was I found that I wanted um that I have a fear of abandonment. Like I feel even when someone doesn't fold me back, I feel, oh my god, what did I do wrong? What did I and I've been having that, I had that through a very long journey of my life. Um, and I went back through this inner child and really I dug deep inside myself. And I found what it was was when I was younger, my dad used to put us in the cellar, you know, when we did something wrong. So it was like, you know, we'd be in a cellar, me and my brother, and we'd be knocking, mom, dad, you know, to my sisters and stuff, and nobody would say anything. And it's like, wow, they left us. They've left us. So every time someone abandons me, or my thought of abandonment, my experience of abandonment, right away in my head, it goes to, oh my God, don't throw me in the cellar, don't throw me in the cellar. And I got to heal that by actually forgiving my younger self and saying, it's okay, let it be. Whatever happened is happened. So for me, my experience that on the court was now I don't feel like you know, the abandonment. It's actually, I changed the context, and the context is it's okay to be alone right now. It's okay, they're doing what they need to do, let me do what I need to do. So the importance of it is to actually stand for a life that is open to receive. Because when you're stuck with these things that you're like not um not completed, there's always a block. There's gonna be a block somewhere. You might not know that, right? So it's actually doing the work and be willing to go deep and be willing to actually get inside yourself and actually look at those old childhood conversations or those experiences and really complete those. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 10:59

Juan, I'm sorry you were put in the cellar. And I'm just really like Luis Hay talks about that our parents do the best they can with what they know, and and I and I know that as a parent myself, and I know you have lovely children as well. Like, we really do the best we can with the awareness that we have at the time. And I think oftentimes those in positions of you know, adults don't don't understand how powerful. And I think part of it is like those generational patterns. Like when we don't see our power and we don't get that we're powerful and understand how powerful we are, then we're we can't be responsible for or we're not responsible for the impact that we have on other people. And and so how and then and then we just can repeat those patterns in our beliefs, in our expectations, in our views or perceptions of how we are or life is. And then I remember being in a seminar once and we were looking at upsets in relationships. I think it was a relationship seminar at Landmark. I was apprenticing it, and and Marg was saying, like, like go look at an upset that you have anywhere in your life right now, with a partner, with a business partner, with a parent or child or whatever. Just go look at that upset and then go look back to the first instance of where you had that upset because I promise you that this is an upset that's been repeating over and over in your life, and you're not actually even upset at the person that you're having the challenge with today. Yeah, you're repeating that pattern that probably got created in childhood. And and I think it's important, I agree with you that it's important to realize that whatever we don't get complete, right? Let go of, acknowledge, forgive, take responsibility for in our own lives, just become patterns that we continue throughout throughout our our whole life. Right. And then and then literally you have, I don't know if you've ever seen that image of Burning Man. Yes, with the two adults who are turned away and the two children who are trying to connect with one another. But literally, you have a bunch of seven-year-olds running around in adult bodies upset with one another, right? And at the same time, desperate to connect.

SPEAKER_02 13:23

Yeah, absolutely. And I had that with my with the uh couple that I have, you know, been married for 30 plus years, and it was they were desperate to connect. And it was like, you know, there was this like just it is that, you know, and that's why for me I get emotional with it because it it's there's so many people out there desperate to connect, you know, with each other, couples that are desperate to connect with the uh, and it's not just with themselves, but not with each other, with themselves. That just bringing back to that fun of like what was it like? Like, what does my inner and I asked my inner child, what do you want? Okay, well, you want a burger, okay. Go ahead. You want to learn the drums? Okay, as a child, you know, I wanted to learn the drums, never could. What did I do? I spent six months learning the drums, right? Because it gave me that, okay, it's okay to actually just want to have fun in life, right? But it's having that opportunity to imagine there's a world where people are like completing these things, and sometimes you don't know, right? As you said, these patterns, you get to be the interruption in your family, like the generations, you get to be the interruption in your lineage of being like, you know, no, it stops with me because I'm willing to do the work so future generations of our family don't all you know don't get to have to deal with the same thing over and over again.

SPEAKER_06 14:40

Yeah, I and that is like so been my experience and my own journey in my own life and my own family. You've talked about fun and play a couple of times, and and I it brings up an interesting point for me because I think as human beings, we we compartmentalize our lives and our experience of life, right? So it's like fun and play is relegated to childhood, and then once you become an adult, the you know, you need to be responsible or like and that looks a certain way, and and we're the way we hold the word responsible is not like being childlike. And and then, but the compartmentalization goes further. Like we try and compartmentalize business and personal as if you know we're not the same human being everywhere we go, and we create these kind of rules around what's professional or what's appropriate in the business setting. And then I think one of the things that I've noticed and in myself and with others is we then go on and put these masks to kind of hide the the pieces of ourselves that we don't think fit or appropriate or work in the business setting. So what do you what if what's your experience been of you know in your own life as a business person or in your you know in your relationships of this compartmentalization and this notion that fun and play are rel relegated to the a period of your life when you were little and and you know, being an adult looks a certain way or anything with that?

SPEAKER_02 16:03

Yeah, I mean, I mean, I have definitely compartmentalized in a lot of things. I while I was at, you know, um personal development programs I did, I was a certain way with these groups of people because it was they they understand the language and the lingo, you know, and then coming home, it was it was different. Like I'm a fat a single father of two, and it's I have to put my dad hat on and tell you what you need to do, right? And it's I can't, I can't, I'm not your friend, I can't be your friend. I have to be the one who's gonna tell you this is what you need to do, right? And then there's like the business side of things, and it's like you have to have a certain um, you know, sometimes my accent, people don't understand it. I have to slow myself down when I'm having conversations with people, or I have to repeat myself, or I have to actually, you know, get so these different compartments, you know, they I I mean it loses my the the essence of who I am sometimes. And I'm like, I want to be able to just, you know, put everything together and bring it all together and bring my authenticity. And I think the issue with I mean, I wouldn't say an issue, but what there is it for me, there wasn't any full self-expression. It was like, you know, who am I today? Who am I tomorrow? Who am I in an hour? Rather than this is who I am, and this is that people gonna like me for who I'm who I am and not. And don't get me wrong, in businesses, obviously there are practices of you know certain professionalism and certain ways you do things, absolutely, but there's always a balance of your authenticity, you know, into it, and it's always place to play, but bring fun and play. You know, I know when we have conversations, you know, and there's always fun, there's always something in there, there's always something, you know, add that, sprinkle that little bit of fun in there. But the compartmentalization is um can, I mean, can be a because I think you said it, the mask, like it actually can be a detriment to you, like your own personal being, because then you don't know who am I really, right? Who am I really? Am I the dad who tells my kids off? Am I the businessman who has to slow down and you know be um, you know, so people get him, or am I somebody who's a certain way because these people know my lingo and know that we we follow the same kind of tribe kind of thing, right? That's that's what I see.

SPEAKER_06 18:14

Yeah, it's interesting because I'll share in my relationship. There was a one, and I know you know my daughter Kayla, um, who's and it you you said like I'm their parent, not their friend, and I'm like smiling to myself because I've had that conversation. Like I had my children when I was quite young, and I've got a you know, somewhat different relationship with them, and Kayla is my best friend. And I've heard that from people that like, and as I've shared about that in different communities, they're like, Well, parents aren't supposed to be friends. I'm like, okay, well, where did that belief come from? And does that belief actually serve you? Like, what kind of relationship do you want with your children when they're adults? Perhaps there's something about how you want to foster that relationship as they grow up. Yeah, I get that parents are for a period of time helping provide. I love it. One of my friends once said, I see being a parent as like the guardrails on the highway. And your job is to make sure that they don't fall off and like crash and burn in a ditch. Right. But like at the same time, giving children enough latitude that they can learn how to be good decision makers, that they can learn discernment where it's appropriate. You, you know, like letting them choose what's for dinner.

SPEAKER_01 19:25

Right. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 19:25

So that they can start to understand making decisions and the consequences when they decide that they're gonna have Sundays for dinner and it makes them feel like garbage, you know, whatever it is. Yeah, I would love that. Kayla and I were talking about because there was a point we're both very sarcastic. For those of you that know me, probably are not surprised by that. Um, and then gotten to a point in our relationship where like it was literally like an ongoing like poking fun or barbs, or you know, you like taught like we call them stinky fish in our family when you're like looking over at the other person and pointing out what they're doing instead of like dealing with you. And like, so it's like this ongoing slapping of the fish in the face.

SPEAKER_04 20:09

Right.

SPEAKER_06 20:09

And one of the things that we got is we had given ourselves permission to be fully expressed with one another, which basically looked like saying whatever we wanted, whenever we wanted, right, in whatever way we wanted. And we were like literally like triggering each other versus like taking on self-expression, yes, which is being your authentic self and not suppressing your truth or what there is for you to say, but like, and this is my interpretation of it, I'm not saying it's truth, but being your authentic self, showing up, being seen, and yet speaking to others in such a way that it speaks into the listening, right? That they can actually get your communication versus like, I'm just gonna say whatever I want, whenever I wanted, and and that's what I'm calling self-express, like being fully expressed, right?

SPEAKER_02 20:56

Right. Yeah, and I see for myself when it comes to like as you the cop um, and I'm work really with my clients now, and I've worked a lot on that, is like these masks, and that's one thing I speak to my clients about is when I talk to them, it's I want the authenticity. The only way we're gonna get through like the the root of you know, the concerns that you have is the authenticity. And it's okay, I'm a big person, I can take it. Like it's but the authenticity is what's needed, and I think that's what's missing in a lot of like businesses and even entrepreneurs, you know, it's like I have to it has to be a certain way in order for people to like for me to have clients, you know, I have to be a certain way, or it has to be perfect before I'd even step into being a business, you know, an entrepreneur, right? Rather than it's actually your experience that people are buying, it's actually who you are as a human being. The true you is what they're actually gonna be like. I want to work with you, right?

SPEAKER_06 21:52

So good. I was I did a live with a friend last night, and I said, Is there anything I need to prepare? And she said, We've been preparing. Our whole lives for this. Wow. And it is like that idea, I think, as entrepreneurs sometimes are like, oh, I can't launch that program. It's not perfect. And I'm going to be actually sharing about this on social today because I think it's so important. Like one purpose over perfection, right? Like you don't know who needs to hear from you today, just as you are. And then the other piece of that is you have literally been preparing your whole life for this. You have everything that you need. Absolutely. Like the the the rocket going to the moon fails its entire way there.

SPEAKER_03 22:36

Right.

SPEAKER_06 22:36

Like literally, the journey from Earth to the moon is like millions of course corrections as the the spaceship goes off course and then re-resets and off course. And we talked about this last night. Beth and I like this idea that like you're failing forward. You just keep taking actions consistent with what it is that you're committed to. I I think that's really important.

SPEAKER_02 22:58

Um yeah, I'm saying that I wasn't originally the human connection architect. I I started off as three or four different person or like company names. It was the moon consulting, divorce happiness, blah, it was three or four. And it was, and that's it, course correction. Like what it what was it? Like as out there in the market, what do people want? And then I got connected to my true, true self. So yeah, I think I love that failing forward because and failing is never like wrong. You know, it's actually part of you know, you listen to all these um like mentors and coaches, it's actually the failing that's in the failing that you get to have the breakthrough to move forward.

SPEAKER_06 23:37

Yeah, I'm so always reminded of Edison. 10,000 light bulbs.

SPEAKER_02 23:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 23:42

How many times did that man probably never want to make another light bulb? But he had a purpose, a commitment, a desire bigger than himself, right? That had him keep moving forward. Now, you you talk about authenticity and and what's right there for me when you say the word authenticity is vulnerability, which you know, thankfully, because of a lot of the work that I've done in my own life over the last four years doesn't make me shudder anymore or want to crawl into a hole. But like this whole conversation about I don't, you can't have authenticity without being vulnerable, without allowing yourself to be seen. And at the same time, I think it as human beings, we have this experience that we don't like to talk about a lot. It's one of these, what what Catherine and I called the other night, dirty words, like shame, right? Which is an experience of being dishonorable or disgraceful in some way having done something or been something that has us be unworthy of connection. And so then, like, and we don't talk about shame openly. It's like it's something that as human beings, we we often try and hide even from our own selves. Like we don't even acknowledge for ourselves the things that we have shame around. So, how, and so it's almost like a trap, right? You could see it's like it's like I have this experience of shame, which prevents me from the thing that I most want in life, which is to be connected, because I've now created myself as unworthy of connection because I'm shameful, and now I'm supposed to be authentic and real and vulnerable and show off and be seen in my shamefulness. How do you help clients work through those things?

SPEAKER_02 25:19

Really? I mean, the first is to bring that out on paper, like bring out, you know, there's something that um I've started to do called shadow work. And what shadow work is actually looking at the other side of you, it's not the negative side, it's as you said, the side you feel is shameful, but start embracing it and bringing it out there. So with my clients, it's actually doing the work of writing out the things that you, you know, and it could be the things you're not most that you're not proud of, things that you don't like about yourself. Write it all out, write your worst self, like create a picture of your worst self. Who is your worst self? What does it look like? Then draw your best self, look at your best self, what is your best self? Draw the picture, write a little story or whatever you need to about this person, and tear up the worst side, right? But really, I think the first is to embrace it, is to actually bring it up, like it's okay to say it. It's okay, nothing has happened because I think it's that fear inside. If I say it, if I tell people I'm feeling this way, if tell people I was this way, um, something's gonna happen to me. Like it's it's a real fear for people, it's like a paralyzing fear for people to actually be vulnerable. So the way to do it with my clients is to uh firstly listen. It's like really listen to what there is for them and be a generous listener for them. There is anything and everything you need to say, I am here to like really support you in that. So say all you know, anything else, anything else, just like what is it, and then really get them connected to their impact. Like, what's the impact? Like, not just the impact, like really truly, what's the impact on you with that? What do you not get to be? And then what do you want in life? Right? And then when that question comes up, like what do you want in life? It lights them up because they see themselves this way, then they're like, Okay, oh my god, this is what I want. We'll ask for it then. Like, who do you have to be? So it's really taking them through this journey and it's an internal journey, you know. And my stuff isn't here, fill out this paper, this worksheet, which is nothing wrong with that. My and I want to really get to the root of it. So it's like, what are you holding on to when it comes to like the shame or things you don't want to show people, right? And what and I think you said it, there are people out there that need to hear that that it's okay to be, you know, vulnerable. It's okay that things haven't always worked out for you, right? So that's kind of that's how I work with my clients.

SPEAKER_06 27:43

So great. You you know, we're never gonna outperform the image that we hold of ourselves in our own subconscious mind. And and through the work I've done in thinking into results and neurolinguistic and various different modalities and coaching methodologies. It's like there is this like view that we project to the world. And I'll never forget, you know, years ago, I was at my favorite coffee shop in Cabbage Town. Coffee is a theme with me as a noob nose. Um, it's called Jet Fuel.

SPEAKER_03 28:12

Oh, nice.

SPEAKER_06 28:12

You have one of those, yeah, all espresso-based drinks. You have one of those things, it's great. It's in Cabbage Town. You have two, the joke is it turns your whole day into an emergency. Wow. Such good coffee. Um, and I was like hanging out with the Duchess, who is a woman named Kim, a friend of mine, who's unfortunately since passed, but she is an incredible woman. And then another lady who was an actress, and and the whole conversation about self-worth came up. And we were just talking, we were standing out front on Parliament Street having our coffee. And probably for the first time to someone other than those most immediately, and even I would say I didn't acknowledge to those even closest to me, they may have known because of experience working, like being around me, right? But it was the first time I had ever really acknowledged to anyone how distorted my view of myself was, and and how crappy I thought of me. And I remember, I think her name was Kristen, I can't remember the actress's name, but I she was like so taken back. She was like, you would never know. Like you walk down the street, your shoulders are back, your head's held high, like you exude confidence. And and I remember, like, you know, my thought was, well, that's my kryptonite, like that's my biggest weakness. Why would I allow you to see my biggest weakness? Right. That's not gonna happen. No one likes a loser. But like that, and that up until I did the landmark forum in nine, like when I was 38, that was how I walked through life. And one of the things that I can see so clearly now is like it put something in the space between me and all of the people in my life because I was protecting this shame that I didn't want people to see, you know, and and that so this work that you're talking about, the shadow work, like that willingness to acknowledge the parts of ourselves that we're not proud of, the thoughts that we have about other people, when maybe where we judge or we're jealous, or you know, where we compare ourselves or any of it, whatever it is, I think it's so important because if we can't own that and just acknowledge it, then then we we need to hide it. And then that causes the experience of disconnection.

SPEAKER_02 30:29

Yeah. And you know, when we don't share it, when when it's not open, it just stays inside and we continue to let it percolate. It just keeps, you know, rather than bringing it out into the world and it, you know, being out there, because you don't know who wants to hear that. Like you have no idea who might want to hear. And I think there's a quote, uh, I don't I don't know if I'm gonna say it right, and this is one of the thinking into results is um you you become what you think about, right? And it's yeah, and it's like you become what you think about um every day. And it's like these things, like if this is what you're gonna, if this is how life is gonna be for you, right? And you can change that, you can shift it. So, and it's difficult for some people. I don't wanna, I don't wanna say it's an easy thing to be authentic and vulnerable, right? Because it's a real thing for people to be like, no, right.

SPEAKER_06 31:19

A hundred percent I agree. And it's like we're not special though, and I think this was one of my I remember being um in a seminar leader work day, uh like I think it was last year, and like actually getting how I'm not special I am, and like how special I'd held myself to be, like my inner voice was louder than everyone's house's and more disturbing, and like had worse things to say, and really getting like, no, like this is part of the human condition.

SPEAKER_05 31:50

Right.

SPEAKER_06 31:50

We all have shade, we all walk around in life in some way, protecting and hiding the parts of ourselves where we don't feel like we're enough.

SPEAKER_03 31:59

Right.

SPEAKER_06 31:59

It's not it's it's it's not right or wrong, it's not good or bad. It just is part of what it is to be a human being and and have the experience of like this is our shared humanity. And the more we can speak it, right, the more we give other people permission to speak it as well. And and then it's in that the speaking of it that it can be released and and it loses its power.

SPEAKER_03 32:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 32:24

Because while you're trapped alone with it in your own mind, it just gets amplified. And I'm I was like smiling a minute ago when you were talking about that, because I remember when I joined Thinking into Results, like this whole thing about affirmations. I was like, okay, sure, woo-woo, whatever. You know, I'm just gonna say I'm like money comes easily to me, and then all of a sudden the money's gonna start flowing in. Like, sure, all right, I'll write it out. But it's not just about writing it out, it's about bringing emotion to it and actually believing. So it's it's a bit more than just writing it out. But then I got, oh my god, I'm affirming things with emotion all the time. It's just usually crappy things that I'm seeing over and over and over again, right?

SPEAKER_02 33:03

Right, yeah, absolutely.

SPEAKER_06 33:05

So, of course, like whatever you think about repeatedly with emotion is what you're gonna get.

SPEAKER_02 33:10

Yeah, absolutely.

SPEAKER_06 33:12

Yeah, what what have been some of your inspirations on this journey, Anu?

SPEAKER_02 33:19

Um, well, one of my inspirations, I mean, it's definitely been uh my kids that they were like going through so there was I went through a divorce, um, and just the resilience that they they have, just the resilience as kids, and you know, knowing and not just the resilience, but they were in my listening. Like they were like I went through a lot when it was going through this, but they were actually always in my listening that they never saw me small, they always saw the big me, even when I couldn't see the big me, right? Which is like how so great. Um, and then I have um like there's so many books. I mean, Bob Proctor's definitely won, you know, his story. Um, it's it's it's phenomenal like who this man is for the world. Um, and someone I'm following is a guy called Trent Shelton, he's a um previous NFL player. Um, and he he never had the journey of I want to be a um I want to be a like a speaker, a motivational speaker. And his his like I guess commitment is protect your peace. Like really protect them while however you protect your peace is however you you know show up in the world. So and the authenticity. So really it's it's my circle, it's the tribe that I create around me that are my inspiration and keep me going and it's like keep me connected to the purpose. And another one is kids, like just the authenticity of kids, you know, young kids, young adults, kids, just their true like authenticity and the play that they have in life and how we can bring that into our lives.

SPEAKER_06 34:55

Yeah, I love that. I you know, and one of the reasons why I love the work that you do so much, and you know, you and I have a shared passion and and purpose around this, is we come at it from a little bit of a different perspective sometimes, but it's like the the more we as adults take responsibility for our own beliefs and our own stuff, the less likelihood there is, like the more we consciously parent we and be an interruption, the the more opportunity there is for our children to be able to be creators of their own experience.

SPEAKER_02 35:38

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_06 35:39

Because that that we come into the world that way, yeah, absolutely. Right. And then it's like so this like journey of personal development is like I really love it's this journey of unbecoming all of the stuff that like we took on the masks, the layers, the right the things that we put up to protect ourselves so that we can really um just have that experience of our own perfection, completion, and wholeness that we're born with.

SPEAKER_03 36:03

Absolutely, I love that so good.

SPEAKER_06 36:08

Well, Anoop, I could talk to you forever, and I I mean we we we do talk often, but just thank you so much. If anyone is interested in in learning more about Anoop or his uh coaching programs and and the three C's for successful partnerships, signature coaching program, you can find him at anodemoon.com and that'll be in the show notes. And uh just thank you. Thank you for who you are for people, thank you for you know the passion that you show up with and and really being someone who's committed to ongoingly fulfilling on your purpose on this planet, and uh just thank you for who you are for me personally.

SPEAKER_02 36:47

You're welcome. Thank you, thank you for all of this and this opportunity to say what there is, you know, out there. And my true commitment is we uh we're connected by this invisible thread, but I want this thread to actually be like visible, like you can actually see, you can actually see that stranger and know that you're connected to that stranger, and you can actually get related to that stranger, whether you know them or not. Like you can get connected, related at any point, and that's kind of my goal, my commitment. And it starts from very young. And if I can share very quickly, is one of the things that I'm also creating is uh mindfulness cards for kids, like positive affirmation cards for like the 7 to 11s, the 12 to 15s, and the 16 to 19s, but really getting them um could start it off young, create that positivity, start that off young, you know, so they get to like stand in these affirmations. I am this, I am this, like a way of being for them. So that's like that's definitely a commitment for me that kids continue to stay fully self-expressed. Um, and I just like love, thank you for like this just opportunity to like for me to be raw and open and authentic, you know, and to be in the space of like you, because you mean so much to me. And I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for you. And I'm truly saying that because you stood for things that I had no idea that I had inside me.

SPEAKER_06 38:06

Thank you. I can't wait to see what else you keep creating. I'm so honored and proud and yeah, all the things. Thank you for why listening this morning and have an amazing day.

SPEAKER_00 38:20

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