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We bring you incredible gaps to create their real life experiences of being an entrepreneur so you can have your whole life work. Now, here's your host, Amber Howard.

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Welcome back everything, everyone, to What Would Amber Do? It is like absolutely my privilege today to be speaking with Sharin Arist and welcome you, Sharin, to the show. Sharin is an inspirational international speaker and five-time award-winning best-selling author. Sharin is an empowerment and resiliency coach and a proud single mom to four beautiful children. Sharin is on a mission to empower and transform women who have been victims of any kind of abuse. And Sharin inspires others, including myself, because we've been friends for years now, with the wisdom and strength that she has gained through her own transformational journey. So, Sharin, welcome to the show and just thank you so much for being here with us today.

SPEAKER_01 1:15

Thank you so much, Amber. It is a pleasure and an honor to be on your show. I would love to let your audience know that there are times when I'm having a breakdown and you're the one who holds the port for me, and I just reach out to you for some coaching. So it is such an honor to be on your show. Thank you so much for being my rock, and thank you so much for inviting me on your show.

SPEAKER_05 1:45

Yeah, I know it's so good. I'm so I've been looking forward to this for so for people listening. I often book months out in advance. So I'm like, I know that people are coming on the show down the road. And I've been, you know, we we booked this months ago. So I've been excitedly waiting for the opportunity to speak with you. Not that we don't talk in other ways, but speak with you here and share you and really just your remarkable story and and what you've been through and what you've overcome, Sheren. You really are someone who uh just epitomizes um like that spirit of overcoming, of being resilient, and and just regardless of the circumstances of your life, like really rising up. So I I'd love for you to share with us a little bit about what has brought you to to where you are today and and what is what is some of that journey look like.

SPEAKER_01 2:35

Yes, um, thank you so much. Uh what has really brought me here today is my gift of not giving up. I've lived most of my life not giving up. So I feel like all the struggles that I went through have brought me to where I am today. And those have all been my gifts, along with me not giving up on um on myself uh through all the trials, through all the adversities that I've been through. So um that's what has brought me here today, and um, it's been my journey of being an immigrant woman, coming from India. Uh, you know, I was raised as uh a very dependent person, you know, like I was raised in a way where I was taught that men are in the society are meant to take care of you. The men in the family are the ones who will provide for you. Like you're not the provider, you're supposed to just take care of the family. The man brings in the money, he's in charge of all the money. And coming from there, talking about getting into becoming an entrepreneur is not something I ever thought of. So when I was growing up, I always thought, I'm gonna be this great wife and awesome mom. That's it. So that was my dream, that you know, we'll have a wonderful family. That's all I looked up to because that was the ultimate life that was uh, you know, that was shown to a girl, a young girl, that you know, you end up like that. But uh unfortunately I wasn't very lucky in my marriages, and so uh things didn't work out the way I thought they would, and I had to end up uh taking charge of my life and being my own provider and being the provider of all my kids. So it was a total twist, you know, flip. And uh I feel that um I feel great about being uh you know responsible and being the provider. I feel um, I feel I feel good, you know, that I it gives me it gives me the opportunity to design my life, to create my life the way I want to, instead of living on other people's ultimatum deadlines and their plans. Um, you know, so it's it's been quite an interesting journey.

SPEAKER_05 5:14

So much of what we talk about, and you and I met in you know, personal development, and I I know we're both very committed to like ongoingly taking ourselves on, but I think so much of the conversation is like one of like unlearning what we learned in our childhood, or like you know, creating from where we are in life, like what is it that we authentically want? And and I know like vision from Mind Valley talks about this idea of beautiful destruction, like that things in your life are happening so that you can become more and more aligned with you know your purpose, with the universe, like what God has intended for you. And and so I I know for both of us, some of the things that we've been through in our life have not been easy. And I was I I was talking with someone today and sharing a little bit about my own journey. And I was like, yeah, it hasn't been easy at times. And I find like sometimes we do that, right? We minimize and then like I in fact, sometimes it went back. Like it was like, you know, it was really rough at times. It was not easy to go through um, you know, surviving for you, surviving cancer, being in an abusive relationship, immigrating to a new country, you know, like all of these things, starting your own business, figuring out after the way you were raised, how do I support this family? But and given the work that you're doing now and and the you know, the amazing inspiration you are to so many women all over the world, Shrine. I I I can only imagine that these experiences have like trued you up to that course.

SPEAKER_01 6:48

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. So, you know, when I was well, I was going through my divorce and the cancer surgery and treatment simultaneously simultaneously. I was doing both of them together. So it was just too much for me to handle, as well as the fact that I was only with uh four kids at home and no other family in cantus, you know, I that I could call my own, no adults in my life that could tell me what to do and how to deal with all this. So I did uh what really helped me was when I went out, somebody told me about landmark and you know this program. And at first I thought, okay, I'm wanting a divorce. Why is this person asking me to do a course in self-transformation and leadership and stuff like that? And I didn't really know where it would take me because when I went on that journey, I didn't, I you know, I just jumped in because I thought, okay, let's give it a try. Like let me be a risk taker, anyways. My life is like going down and I don't know where I'm going. So let me try this. And I just I just took that risk and I signed up for landmark, and my life has never been the same ever since. And what I wanted as an outcome from doing that course was somebody tell me what to do so that I can get my divorce and I can, you know, deal with cancer. But this went beyond, then it became my way of being, like it impacted me so much, like it transformed so much within me that I just didn't stop with just that course and think, okay, I've I've got my divorce that I'm I've healed, and now I don't need this anymore. I am so hungry for growth and you know, transformation and like what's next for me, what's next for me, that I have continued on that journey. And I take different courses, even with landmark and other courses, and you know, my whole network, my community, everything has changed. And not only have I managed to get my divorce successfully, as well as, you know, I've been cancer free for seven years, but then I created a life beyond that that I could have never imagined, to be a speaker on stage, to be a writer and write books, to, you know, coach other women who are going through abuse and they don't know, you know, they want, they know what they want, but they don't know how to get there. And and also, you know, to to create a business around that so that it can sustain my, you know, and support my passion and my other projects that I want to do to serve the world. So it's like it's just been like a ripple effect, and I'm only growing.

SPEAKER_05 9:44

So it's so important, you know, what I hear on what you're saying is like acknowledging the the journey, right? And and I know for myself, like sometimes I have this accountability club that I run every morning, and we're up to like, you know, it's it's growing, and we have some new members on this week. And and they're saying like someone was celebrating just like what might seem to someone else to be the tiniest little win. And it's like we don't, we don't acknowledge, we don't celebrate, we don't, you know, really, it's like so much of the human condition is like next, next. Oh, I completed that goal next. What am I creating next? But to really take a moment and pause and reflect and be like, wow, like I had that moment today when I looked at the real, you know, if I look at no other impact from my having started this personal development journey than the relationship I get to have with my mom and my dad today. Like that was not predictable. And and and it started with me really getting these tools that allow me to keep just kind of taking personal responsibility for my life and and asking myself the question, like, what do I want to create? And I think that's really at the spirit of what it is to be an entrepreneur is to be someone who says, okay, I'm gonna, I'm gonna live life on my own terms. I'm gonna, I'm gonna realize my vision in the world. I'm going to, you know, there, there's a contribution, not like I think working in corporations or working for companies, not for profits, like all of those things is fantastic. And, you know, what's at the heart, I think, for most entrepreneurs is there's some unique contribution that they want to make into the world that they don't see how to make inside someone else's company or inside of someone else's vision. And uh I think, but it it's a bumpy ride at times. So having a set of tools that allows you to, you know, keep plugging, plugging into power and uh is really important. And I know that that's something we've both gotten.

SPEAKER_01 11:40

And and I'd like to add to that, you know, what really opened up for me also was that I'm not going to be constantly sitting in that class or taking a you know a course every day of my life. So what really got created for me was the community of people around me. So that's very inspiring when I see people around me, everybody's striving, everybody's doing something, you know, that that speaks of growth and transformation and contribution. And so, you know, when you are surrounded by people who are all playing the same kind of game, you know, they have the same intention of doing good in the world, of being their best versions, working on that, then you, you know, it's like an it's infectious, you know, and you can't be anything else. And then the uh, you know, I would admit that they there are times when I have breakdowns, and it's not always the same that I'm I oh, I I know everything and I know how to do it, even with all the tools. So what's powerful is that now I have the uh you know access to uh to be able to reach out, and a friend will be like, okay, I'm not gonna leave you like that. Like someone like you, someone like Maria Diaz, you know, McDaya, or you know, whoever knows me, they'll be like, What are you dealing with? I want to know. And then they won't leave me there, they won't leave me in that space where I'm you know struggling. And this, you know, just having a conversation and you know, a powerful conversation, an intentional conversation where the person is making a contribution and lifting you out of that state of you know disempowerment, that is such a gift. It's priceless.

SPEAKER_05 13:27

You uh you remind me of I was in this seminar years and years ago, and uh one of the assignments for the week was to like identify, like like notice where we're kind of in the muck, but not do anything about it, just kind of sit in it. And I'm like, I'm someone who does something, and I'm also someone who's very literal. So when when the seminar leader says you're just to bring awareness to the muck, but you're not to try and fix it, I did that. And after about, I don't know, a few days, I was like real at it. I was like so disempowered. And I wasn't reaching out for coaching, I wasn't doing, I wasn't using my tools because I was told I'm a good girl, right? I was told to sit in the sit in my dirty diaper for a week or two. And uh after about a week, my daughter was like, This is that like I cannot live live with you like this. You have to do something. And so then she's like reaching out to different leaders to be like, you have to talk my mom down. Like, what is going on? Yeah. But I had a friend uh from Landmark reach out to me because she was in the same seminar and and she said, You you screwed up, Amber. And I said, Well, what do you mean? She goes, You you put yourself in a community of people who just won't tolerate not being empowered in your life. Yeah. And uh, you know, she was being um playful when she said that I screwed up, but it really got it in that moment. Like, and I think that is like the best thing that you can do for yourself as a human being, and definitely as an entrepreneur, is surround yourself with people who are, you know, we talk about vibrating at the same level or on the on the same wavelength, whatever. Like, I love the way my friend Jeanette put it years ago, that you're harmonating at the same frequency. And and, you know, as you go through your life, you you the harmony, the frequency that you harmonize at changes. And and and it means that some people just, you know, you're not on the same wavelength anymore. And it doesn't mean that you don't love people, but it's just it becomes almost uncomfortable to be around one another. Yeah. Um, and and so I a hundred percent agree with you. I think that we often don't talk about that, you know, the journey of personal development is um it's kind of an individual journey because we're all living our own best life, but really the community, the people in my life that have come into my life as a result of this work. Um is such a gift. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. So one of your foundational pieces or conversations is about being your own North Star and like finding your own North Star and you know, and in what I hear in that, like living your authentic life. Talk to me a little bit. Where did that come from? Like, what does that mean to you and why is it so important for you? That I would say all people, but especially women, yeah, you know, become their own North Star, Shrean.

SPEAKER_01 16:22

So my I can divide my life, like you know how you have a movie and then you have a break intermission. So my intermission phase in life was when I had cancer. Before that, I was like a totally different person. And so my life would be like, I don't know what choices to make. I don't know what decision. Somebody has to tell me how to live my life, how to do life. So, first it was my parents, my mom, my sister, and everyone knew best what was best for me. Like my mom, my dad, and then my whoever I got married to, then my in-laws. And so I really didn't know. I was not plugged in, I was not connected to myself. And and I was, I never paid attention to was it what is it that I want. You know, and it was always like I am that good girl, like how you talk about. So I do everything that everybody wants me to do because I want to be the best. I want everybody to say, oh, this girl is the best, you know, that I know. So I wanted to be my parents' best daughter, I wanted to be the best one, sister-in-law, daughter-in-law. And so the people pleaser in me was like always at your service. And I was unhappy. I had no control over how my life was going. Everything was going wrong. My both my marriages failed. I was miserable. I was blamed for both the failure, marriages failing. And I did everything I could to be that good wife, and yet I failed. And you know, when the marriage fell apart, it was my fault. My first husband was a drug addict, he couldn't give up his addiction. It was my fault. I was not a good wife who transformed him. I couldn't be his angel who, you know, made him quit his addiction and you know, and change him. So it was my fault. Uh he was spending all the money in his addiction, but my in-laws thought I was blowing up all the money and I didn't know money management management skills. And so it was my fault. And you know, and it it was I like I was miserable that you know, I don't know what else to do. And then to be forced, like, okay, I had no say, I had to get married at a certain age. If I wasn't getting pregnant, then there was something wrong with me. I had to be pregnant by a certain age and have a child by a certain age. If my marriage was not working, something like all the time, you know, if things didn't go the way other people thought it should go, then something was wrong with me. And so that's I had my second marriage. I came to Canada, and you know, whatever happened in that Malabuse. So if my parents didn't deliver according to uh the Indian culture, you know, in terms of dowry and in terms of pleasing the son-in-law, it was my fault. So I I got a good um, like I got I got to face that, you you know, and and that it was my fault that my parents were not so giving and so generous and and and you know, no, not so um like at your service kind of uh family to my in-laws. And so I had to face that all the time. And it was even though I was not in charge of my life, but everything that went right was because of other people making decisions, but everything that went wrong was my fault. So then after I had cancer, that changed. That changed, and what life has been like for me ever since is that I am very much okay to mess things up. That's what I um I realized and I gave my I allowed myself that space that I am it's okay for me to mess it up, it's okay for me to make mistakes, and I take full responsibility for that. And I am a lot lighter, and and that makes me uh, you know, I'm able to take risks and you know jump from one level to another because now I'm doing life my way. So I kind of have an idea, a plan. I am creating things, and if plan A doesn't work, it's okay. I mean, I I don't go blaming anybody else, but it liberates me because I'm like, okay, plan A didn't work, but because it was my plan, let's look into what didn't work and let's tweak that up a little and let's try plan B. I have that freedom to revisit and see what didn't work and and you know and try something different. That's very liberating. And and you know, I feel uh I feel like I'm I'm giving myself some respect by allowing myself that you know it's it's not a life of no dignity.

SPEAKER_05 21:25

It's beautiful. I um there are so many ways we dishonor ourselves as human beings. Yes, you know, um listening to the voice inside of our head, you know, allowing others' priorities to be our own, you know, not not asking ourselves like what do I want in my own life? You know, like living our lives for other people. That's why it's so important to me that people get that they can create their own life.

SPEAKER_01 21:55

Yes, and that's and I've messed, I've messed up so Many times because I'm, you know, I I've never seen women around me as entrepreneurs because I grew up in a family where my mom was a homemaker, my grandmom was a homemaker, my aunts were homemakers. Nobody even went out and did a job. So I, for me, uh, and then because there are two things that women couldn't talk about. One for me, I mean, in my family, in my culture back home in India, two things: money and men. And so my biggest fears have been money and men. And to be an entrepreneur, you cannot be an entrepreneur without money and men. You have to engage and interact with money and men. So the first time, the very first time, I said, Hey, I want to be an entrepreneur and I don't know how to go about it. And so I said, Okay, I'm gonna get out of my comfort zone and I'm gonna trust a man to show me how to be an entrepreneur. He's gonna be my coach. And I I remember this is hilarious. He's he is very good in what he does. And then I went to him and I gave him a check. And I said, Hey, you know, we had a conversation. He said, I'm gonna charge you this money and this and that. I gave him a check. I came back home and I called him and I said, Stop the work. I'm not working with you. I said, I'm not working with you. And he said, What happened? And I said, Oh, I have a problem, and you know, I can't afford I was so afraid of risking that money. And what how I uh how I had it in my head at that time was that I'm giving this money to him, so I am like the risk is coming from him, and so he will take my money and I'll do the work because men are three years. I've had bad experiences with men. My husband betrayed me, so so you know, I came from that space, and it, you know, I didn't work with him, I did lose a bit of money with him, and it's not because of him, it's because I, you know, I I stopped the work and I and I committed to it, and I said, I don't want to work with you. So, you know, he had already he sat down and he made a nice blueprint about how we are gonna go about it. So he said, it's not fair, like I already made the blueprint, now you're gonna like I could use that blueprint and create the business. So I understand that, but at that time I didn't. I was I came from that space where oh he's out to get me, you know, he's gonna take my money. And what I realized was over time, what I've realized is that I was the risk. My mindset put everything at risk. And when I when I got that, so now if I want to make an investment in a coach or anybody who helps me further my business, I will come from a place of I am willing to do this, and what no matter what the outcome is. And I'm not coming from a space of being reckless and not doing my research, not you know, being you know, totally oblivious of how the person is. I'm not saying, you know, be blindfolded and go give your money to anybody. No, but then as I said, I have a community of people around me and I've been watching and observing them for a period of time. I uh what I needed to give up was, you know, the fear of them hurting me, the fear of me losing my money. Uh, you know, and you know, I I came, I grew up knowing that you can't fool around with money, you can't play with money. So this would be like I used to think, oh, I'm playing with money, I'm not respecting it, but that's not true. What I'm offering on the table is not just money, it's all my life's work. Right? And I'm just I'm not considering that at all. I am I am going to give that coach all my ideas. What about that to help me put the business together? And I don't feel any threat about anybody stealing me, stealing that away, and I'm thinking about just uh a few thousand dollars.

SPEAKER_05 26:18

You know what I'm getting? I think it's important to really get that we manifest everything, even the stuff we don't want, right? Like it's like sometimes when people talk about manifestation, it's like, oh, you know, I'm manifest the good things. No, you manifest all of it, and you may not want some of it, but it's all inside of um, you know, even this, like we had there was this conversation that happened on social media today around being a single mom. And and I said it took a little bit of issue with uh not the person posting it because he's incredible, but like that someone had posted like something about single mom syndrome. And I'm like, I take issue with that. It's like it's not like it was aspirational for me to become a single mother. In fact, it was like the absolute opposite. I didn't want, you know, I saw how hard my mom was raised by a single mom. I saw how hard she worked. And I was like, I'd rather not have children if that there's any risk that I'm gonna end up, you know, working that hard in life because like my mom worked so hard to support my brother and I and provide for us in various different ways. And, you know, but I kept saying, I don't, the universe has no sense of humor. It doesn't hear I don't want to be a single mother. It just hears you talking about being a single mother over and over again. And as much as I I didn't necessarily I didn't want for things to go the way that they did, I can take personal responsibility for the patterns of behavior and and choices that I made that that wound up to me being where I am today. And I think that's so important in our businesses as well, because you know, I think we've all been there, Trian. I've especially over the last year, as I've been kind of floating a little bit and like a bit like a leaf, like trying to get some clarity around where I want to focus my attention. You know, when you've got so many different things that you can contribute to others, it can be difficult to know what's the best way to fulfill my vision. Like, you know, the end. And so I've I've spent some money that I was like, okay, well, you know, if I thought about that a little harder, I probably wouldn't have done that. Oh, oh look, I did it again. Okay, got it. And it's been a little bit of like, oh, this is it. No, no, it wasn't that, yeah, oh no, this is really it. No, not again, not it again, right? And and I think you have to have a whole lot of grace and compassion for yourself as you go through that journey of saying, you know, and and this is one of my new mentors, Chris, is the, you know, like really learning to listen to your heart, which is why I think this message of, you know, your North Star to me, you know, I I think part of what I love about your vision is that we can all kind of like create it for ourselves, like what's what's your North Star for you? But um, for me, it's like when you are living your life aligned with your heart. Yes. And I I I, you know, that's not gonna start like steer you the wrong way. Like that's gonna keep you true, right? True to true to your purpose, true to why you were created, true to what matters to you, true to your love, your love for yourself, your love for others. Um and um yeah, I you have to have a bit of a sense of humor about it all. And I, you know, I always like to think of um, you know, 10,000 light bulbs. Like, how many times in that journey to create the light bulb was he like, uh, I don't ever want to create another light bulb? I'm sure there were moments, but he had a commitment, you know. Um Edison had a commitment.

SPEAKER_01 29:52

So, you know, I'd like to add to that. So, you know, now I have clarity that okay, this is who I am, this is who I've been throughout, you know, that I have this fear around men and money. So I am earlier I didn't have that awareness. Now I do. So the amount of money that I've lost is priceless because it gave me this awareness. Now I know that this is what I deal with, and I I figured out how to navigate through that, and that's what being your North Star is about. It's being your North Star doesn't mean I'm shining bright, I know my way. It doesn't mean that that I have I know it all and I know my way. I mean, you see, the idea of a star shining is only when there's darkness that you can see the star. You don't see a star, you know, in the morning sky, but you see it only when it's dark. So you will see your star only in moments of darkness. And my moment, biggest moment of darkness was divorce and cancer when I was going through that. And then when when that when I saw that star, it gave me direction. It created that clearing for me. And part of being your own North Star is being ready to burn. A star shines in its own light, it's not like the moon reflecting the light of the sun, it shines in its own light, and so you you you you're you know, you'll be ready to burn and be visible because you can't hide, you have to shine, you can't hide. So, you know, you can't just you know pop your head out, do a few things, and then go back and hide. You are ready to play full out. That's what being your North Star is about, and it doesn't mean there'll be no darkness, you still have to shine in the middle of all that darkness. That's what it is about, and so you know, I know what I know, and like in the you know, I it you what I've learned is you don't have to know all the all the 10 steps to you know wherever you want to be, but you know, it's enough to see the light in you know in front of you and put one step in front of the other, and you know, but keep going forward, and I don't give up. Yes, I might pause, but I don't give up.

SPEAKER_05 32:25

Yeah, that leaks to two things. One, I I completely agree, I think, and I love that you when you said, you know, that um the awareness you got from spending that money was priceless because I, you know, you can't be responsible for something until you're aware of it. And and now that you have that awareness, it's like, okay, you know, I know this about myself. So I know that when I go into situations dealing with money or men, this it's possible that this is gonna come up. There's that fear is gonna be there. And so you can put, you can reach out to people, you can, you know, you can take actions to to get yourself supported as you go through those those processes, those parts of life. And then you get new results and you know, new outcomes. And then, and then you now you have new pathways in your brain that keep forming, and then you have good experiences with money and men, and all of a sudden it's like over time, you know, you don't have fear around money and men anymore. Or if you do, it's like you know, a little whisper, and then you just kind of move through it.

SPEAKER_01 33:25

Um so I tell myself, like my what's so is, you know, I'm afraid around men or dealing with money, and then I ask myself, so what? And I flip it and I say, so what? And keep going.

SPEAKER_05 33:41

Yeah, it's so powerful. Our fear doesn't have to stop us.

SPEAKER_01 33:45

Yes, yeah. I can you can keep feeling nervous, afraid, and keep doing it. Like it's like having a baby, you know, you're nervous, but you're still having a baby.

SPEAKER_05 33:54

Well, it's an interesting analogy because once you start, it's it's I remember being 17 years old and I had a fairly long labor with Matthew. I think it was like 17 hours, and it was like at one point in the labor, I was like, I'm done. And I was very calm. And the nurse is like, What do you mean you're done? I'm like, I'm done. I'm not doing this anymore. And they're like, Miss Howard, you can't be done. Like, it's like you have to, I'm like, no, you don't understand. I don't enjoy this anymore, and I'm not doing this anymore. It's over. So unfortunately, it doesn't really work that way. Once you start, you kind of have to see that one through. But I I I love that that that idea that it's yeah, the bigger the games we get up to in life, the more at risk we put ourselves, the more out there we put ourselves, the more we stand up and say, this is who I am, and this is what my heart is, and this is what I love, and this is what I'm passionate about, and this is what I'm committed to, you risk being invalidated.

SPEAKER_03 34:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 34:52

Because, you know, I watch people go through all the time. Even my kids with some of their dreams and the things that they're out to fulfill on, the the agreements, the reality that we live in doesn't see the our possibility as being fulfilled upon. Yes. And it's like, who are you gonna be in the face of that? Right. It's like, okay, I got that you can't see the future that I see. I got that you can't, you don't look out at the reality, the so-called reality that we live in and see my possibility realized, but I do. Right. And I'm gonna keep taking those steps and I'm gonna keep falling flat on my face, and then I'm gonna get up and I'm gonna do it all over again. And and um, you know, you and I are in a course together. Like one of the most powerful things I got out of wisdom that first weekend was this idea that as human beings, we're always stopping. We're always stopping, whether it's a health and well-being, like a nutrition program, a diet, a workout regime in our businesses, in our relationships, in our households, like you know, we are always stopping. And I could just really, and we start again and we stop and we start and we stop. And I got to see how wrong we make it when we stop.

unknown 36:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 36:04

But when you step outside of that dial, like out of that, and just say, okay, well, I've I got a choice. Do I want to start again? Do I want to start something new? Do I want to stop altogether? All of a sudden the significance comes out of it. It's like that is just part of what the condition is of being a human being. And I think for those listening to the show right now, if you could just like of all you took away, and there's so much gold in this conversation, but if all you took away is like it's okay that you stop. Because you get to just you get to choose what you do next on the other. Once you realize you stopped, then you get to say, okay, well, what now? What do I want to do now? And I think that uh is such a gift. Yes, absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. So what's next for you? I kind of know, but I want you to tell all of them. You've got something exciting coming up in June. And I would love to for you to share with everyone a little bit about what that's about, you know.

SPEAKER_01 37:03

Yeah, so I've um I'm a part of uh global movement called the social moment. Basically, it's uh a docuseries that is going to be aired in September of uh in uh yes, September season one is going to be aired in September of this year. Uh it's a global movement based on um 10 out of 17 United Nations goals, and we have a producer uh uh uh who's very well reputed in the field of docuseries. He is filming the show, and uh we have 10 episodes, and um, I'm on the production team, and uh I'm also going to be um teaming up with um with a group of uh entrepreneurs, CEOs, founders, passionate people that are you know business savvy and and heart-led to make a difference in the world. And I'm going to be working on finding a cure for cancer. Uh you know, there are other nine other uh causes that other teams will be working on, but I'm going to be working on finding a cure for cancer.

SPEAKER_05 38:17

Such uh an amazing thing. So the the the shows, the social movement, and uh, you know, I'll include a link to check out what it's all about uh in the show notes for Shirin's episode tomorrow. And uh really, Sharin, just um thank you for being someone who's like willing to just keep leveling herself up in um inside of the the all of the different things that you're committed to.

SPEAKER_01 38:45

It's going to be exciting because we're competing against time. We'll be finally doing this, solving this problem, global problem in four days. So that's interesting, and I'm I'm playing with it. That's all. And you know, as I said, I I I've given myself the uh you know the space to fail, the space to to make mistakes. And so I'm fearless and unstoppable. I'm like, okay, let's play this full out. And like I am not an expert. I I haven't uh studied, I'm not a doctor who can find a cure for cancer, but I have my own lived experience to put on the table of what did I do to get out of my own way, out of my own head of you know, of uh, you know, doubt and fear when the doctors told me I had cancer. And what did I do to step away so that the doctors could do their work? So I'm I have that to offer on the table. That's what I'm going to share.

SPEAKER_05 39:42

Well, I think that's so important. You know, I was just uh looking this morning, uh Louise Hayes' book, You Can Heal Your Life, you know, where she talks about like so much of the disease is like dis dis-ease, right? It's a function of our mind and so many of the things that we can actually heal our bodies through our mind. So I think you have a lot to contribute to the conversation. And and again, I just really acknowledge you for being someone who's willing to put yourself out there like that. I think it's it's a beautiful thing. And um, you know, just thank you for being the kind of human being that is willing to share yourself honorably with other people. Sharon, it's that easy to get up on stages and write books and and talk about some of the things that you've been through. And I I just know that when you shine your light, you give others the permission to shine theirs and to share about their own experiences. And I think that's um so important and such, like you know, the gift that you've given your children and being the kind of mother and woman and and leader and businesswoman who is just unstoppable in the face of any circumstance is just such an extraordinary thing. They're going to carry that for the rest of their lives. And I know from some of the things that you've shared on social media, they already are. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 41:08

Thank you. Yes, and uh, you know, I've also uh learned over time, I've learned to appreciate the value of having a coach, you know, and and you know, not just for your personal growth, you know, a business coach, uh, you know, there are different types of coaches. And yes, you know, if we try to do things on the on our own, we will all get there eventually. We will all find our ways. But when we have a coach, then you know we can reach there faster because they've been there and done that. It's like you know, having a tour guide. You want to you're in a new place. I mean, if you have a tour guide, you save time. Well, and it's like time is precious, you know.

SPEAKER_05 41:58

You do save time, and I love that you said that. And and I also like, I mean, I I don't know about you as a coach, but for me, I am like my my my coach's biggest cheer. Like, I am just like so for them. Like I literally get out of bed in the morning and I haven't like all of my coaching agreements with people, like kind of completed their course, and then I started this contract because one of my old clients really needed some support with something for a few months, and and I didn't know exactly what my time would look like and whether I'd have space to be coaching people on top of that work. So I didn't take anyone new on. And I've like, now that that's kind of settled out, you know, we're always getting bigger plates around here. So it's like, oh, okay, I can grow my plate again. I know what this looks like. I'm ready to take on some new coaching clients. And so I'm I'm looking, and it's kind of like Christmas, right? You're like, oh, who are the people's lives that like who are these new people that I'm going to start working with in the coming weeks that I get to have win? Cause like it's like I get out of bed so that they win in life for the things that are important to them. And it's such um I I to me it's a sacred trust because when people hire a coach for a specific area in their life, it's typically an area of their life where they're not able to cause the results that they want on their own. And so it's it's not that those things are necessarily the things that matter most to them because other areas of their life that really matter, then maybe working, but these are areas of their life where they feel stuck and they don't know how to move forward. And so there, I to me, it's such a sacred trust to be a coach. And absolutely um, I'm always so grateful for for what I have, you know, that those opportunities to contribute to others in that way.

SPEAKER_01 43:35

And and you know, starting on this journey of being an entrepreneur, what I really learned when I started it was I thought I had to know how to, I had to have good management skills with money. Because being an entrepreneur, I used to think that it's all about earning money, how successful you are with earning money. That totally shifted for me. What came as a huge eyes for me was it's not about how you manage and how you earn money, it is about how you manage your time. You know, the money will flow, and you know, you you take care of your time and be effective, and you know, don't you know consider your time as the most precious, more far more precious than money. If you manage that well, the money will flow. It's the time that is important, and that's why it is very important for us to have coaches, because when we have coaches, we are efficient with our time, we can do a lot more.

SPEAKER_05 44:40

Yeah, I love that. And I and I think it's like um like when you're serving, when you're contributing, whatever that looks like, whatever your job, however you earn an income, but when it's really coming from what's aligned to your North Star, it's like the you know, like it just life works, and um, there's a there's a real sense of ease. So, you know, thank you for for coming on the show, Sharin. For those listening, you'll be able to find that information about Shrien and all of her books and in the show notes. And uh, I'm sure this will not be the last time I have you on the show and then we talk and and uh you know, I from my heart to yours as your friend and and someone who just really adores you. Um just I love you so much, and and thank you for being here and and sharing yourself with us and as always sharing all of the parts of you with me.

SPEAKER_01 45:29

Thank you. Thank you so much. I love you and adore you too, and I am so grateful for having you in my life.

SPEAKER_05 45:36

Me too. For everyone listening, have a great week and uh thank you so much for tuning in.

SPEAKER_01 45:43

Thank you, thank you for having me. Thank you, everyone, for listening.

SPEAKER_00 45:47

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